You are not appearing to possess goals that are clear from what you really want. Can it be some one you may get along with on nights out, weekend times, plus in sleep? Since you’ve got that. Or you don’t need him become an entirely trustworthy friend, who can confide their tips for you, or conduct his affairs with others in a open, ethical means?
Because that last one sounds like either a beneficial friend — that you did not take care to really make, we suspect — or somebody who is polyamorous / ethically non-monogamous, who’s got taken the full time and energy had a need to think about these kinds of things.
If having someone fun you can frolic on the full nights and weekends with is important, keep seeing him. But take 100% responsibility for the security, he is doing on the side because you don’t know what or who. After you know a great deal more about his life if you really need a friend you can trust, next time form a no-strings relationship only. If you need an individual who is ethical within their non-monogamous behavior, give consideration to reading “The Ethical Slut”, or likely to a polyamory meetup towards you. Read More